Buffalo seasons Awareness in life
On Earth Day, The Minds of Gray Whales & Our Shadows
Nature is our teacher, every day. We only need listen, smell, taste, touch, and observe. On this 53rd Earth Day, reading our profundity can lead us into a verdant chartreuse and emerald-painted forest, where we can chase our Shadow amidst spring’s dew drops and cadmium yellow rays of sunshine.
Coming to understand the self in connection to our natural world and to others is an enlightening journey into waters and forest floors that we inhabited eons ago. Well before the study epigenetics, Carl Jung posited that a hidden and repressed part of the self, aka The Shadow, “reach[es] back into the realm of our animal ancestors.” [2]
Feedback Loops 101: understanding Attachment
In this blog series, I offer insight into how we learn to relationally dance, focusing on how positive and negative strokes lead to positive and negative feedback loops. No matter your current attachment style, the good news is that like a bad dance move (think Elaine, Seinfeld), you can retrace your steps and learn a better way of dancing with the people in your life.
Homage to a Woman Leader: Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
In spending countless hours with dying patients, Kübler-Ross identified the emotions and feelings they expressed on their journey toward end-of-life. Kübler-Ross is rightfully credited with changing the way we approach death and how we talk and listen to dying patients. What had previously been taboo in Western culture, had not only shifted the medical community’s views of death but also in popular culture. [1] A reevaluation of Kübler-Ross’s work has cemented her far-reaching influence on palliative medicine. [2]
Feeling the Absence in Ambiguous loss
In the 1970s, Dr. Pauline Boss identified a form of loss that results due to the physical or psychological absence of a loved one: Ambiguous loss. It is different from ordinary loss because “there is no verification of death or no certainty that the person will come back or return to the way they used to be.”
when grief is complicated
In this new blog series, I discuss types of complicated grief and how counseling can help a person struggling in their time of mourning. This week we learn about disenfranchised grief and how to help a loved one who is grieving.
Why Buffalo?
As a grief counselor, I walk with my clients through the storm, encouraging them to be the buffalo. We need to run into the grief storm, like buffalo run into the ice storm because trying to escape it is futile and depletes our resources.